Mormon dating outside religion
She wanted to know how my husband and I make our Mormopalian marriage work: . I get variations of these marital questions from time to time; in fact, they’re among the most common personal queries I receive through the blog. 2) Mormons have the lowest rates of intermarriage of any other religion in America.
Since most marriages are done by a religious authority in any religion, who did yours?
Such problems have not been my experience in being married to a 100% awesome Protestant husband.
Tonight is the 25 anniversary of the evening we met, so forgive me if I’m a little gushy.
This tells me something – not that my own marriage or life is so interesting, but that the Church is providing very little in the way of resources for anyone thinking of marrying outside its ranks. In America more generally, about 1 in 3 marriages is now interfaith; for Mormons it’s only about 1 in 9.
The LDS Church strongly encourages Mormons to only date other Mormons, and certainly to only marry inside the fold (though as Naomi Schaefer Riley points out in her terrific book on interfaith marriages in the USA, Mormons also do a great job of fellowshipping interfaith families once a wedding has already occurred). (And in answer to your specific question about my wedding, I wasn’t Mormon when I got married, so we had a Protestant candlelight ceremony.) Focus on the marriage, not the wedding. That’s great news for those who are concerned about propagating the faith, but know that it makes for a lonely road for you personally.
Frankly, a whole lot of Americans flat-out don’t like us, or at least don’t know much about us.
It’s not just a matter of which church to attend; what about tithing? Riley says that in Mormonism, there is no stigma attached to being in a part-member marriage. (Incidentally, non-Mormon wives are almost twice as likely to convert to Mormonism as non-Mormon husbands.) These numbers are far higher than postmarital conversions in other religions, particularly in Judaism.