Personal story dating violence
She remembers when she’d call the police because her abuser was threatening suicide—he’d sometimes leave pill bottles lying around or hang nooses from the staircase—and he’d tell the responders she was the one with the problem.
Experiencing something like that even once would be psychologically disorienting.
According to the National Institute of Mental Health, it can affect anyone who has experienced a shocking, scary, or dangerous event, which includes women who have been through violence or another trauma.
Women are particularly susceptible to PTSD, which is sparked by “exposure to an event that involved or held the threat of death, violence, or serious injury,” according to the Mayo Clinic.
Stress hormones and other chemicals pump through our body when we experience fear.
This physiological fight-or-flight response can linger even after the danger’s gone.
"She would have to remind me to eat and help me go grocery shopping.
“People who have [experienced] domestic violence often are conditioned to basically give up on themselves,” Melanie says.
According to the National Center on PTSD, due to women’s higher likelihood of experiencing trauma, including domestic violence, they have a 10 percent chance of developing the condition, while men’s odds stand at 4 percent.
The Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM-5) lists the criteria for a clinical PTSD diagnosis. D., director of the National Center on Domestic Violence, Trauma, and Mental Health, tells SELF that the way trauma manifests in individuals is very personal.
“Every day beyond that point is them fighting to get back, to stand on level ground.”A common one is cognitive: Many survivors have trouble concentrating.
After leaving her abusive relationship on that winter night in early 2015, Sophia’s ability to focus suffered, which affected everything from schoolwork to her legal case.“Crunching gravel in New Hampshire doesn’t mean the same thing, but my body didn't know the difference.