Rules for relationships and dating
This is a very peculiar lens, because it is a cultivated set of information you choose to reveal about yourself.
It obviously doesn’t include a lot of the negative truths about who you are as a person — but nor does it include the really details that make you interesting and unique.
In this time, the cutesy sitcom-peddled scenes of chance meetings in coffee shops and whatnot were pretty firmly thrown out the window.
Instead, we’ve got more online dating sites and swipe-based apps than you can poke a stick at, each promising a slightly different version of ‘filter out baddies’ and ‘date goodies’.
But then I grew up, and became an adult, in the 2010s.
The men I was dating were all dating many women, and in a few instances, they picked those women over me.
That is completely fine — that’s dating, after all.
Some claim to have your personality in play, others mess around with existing social networks (via Facebook or similar), and others claim to be exclusive, or cater to very specific kinds of hookup, or promise more ‘serious’ pundits.
Amongst all this, it also just so happens that I moved to London in my mid twenties, one of the biggest and busiest cities in the world, with a high degree of people who are single. I’ve already written about some of the amazing choice words I received in this time — the weird things men have actually said to me.But by the same token, you can get insight into the general values/ideals of the person in question.